Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is internationally known as a speaker and author with over 30 years experience in counseling as well as scientific and biblical research. Studying male-female relationships, Dr. Eggerichs finds that men and women need both love and respect. However, in times of conflict, women need to be shown love while men need to be shown respect. He has a wide selection of books, CD’s, DVD’s, and live events.
The Love & Respect series offers insight and practical how-to information. Dr. Emerson Eggerichs explains that when a marriage has conflict, it is likely in what he calls “the crazy cycle.” The crazy cycle is when she does not feel loved, she reacts, he then does not feel respect, and then he reacts. The cycle can start at any time and will continue until love and respect are finally shown.
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Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, COUPLE and CHAIRS
In Love & Respect, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs shows that there are 3 cycles married couples can go through. The Crazy Cycle is when there is unresolved conflict. The Energizing Cycle is when both husband and wife are doing what it takes to get out of the crazy cycle. This involves COUPLE and CHAIRS. The third cycle is the Rewarding Cycle. The rewarding cycle is when the fruits of loving and respectful behavior are enjoyed by the happily married couple.
In the Energizing Cycle, there are things both the husband and wife need to do. Men need to emphasize COUPLE:
Women need to emphasize CHAIRS:
In the Love & Respect book there is a very good appendix with examples of exactly how to follow the instructions given and exactly what to say.