Uncommon Advice for Uncommon Results!
Ordinary marriage advice and tips lead to ordinary results - a divorce rate of 45%. Such advice focuses on symptoms of marriage problems. At Happy Marriage Coaching, the marriage advice you get here focuses on what makes a difference - a focus on how to find and address the root causes of marital problems.
There are over 1 billion marriage related resources on the internet. Over 95% of them, by themselves, are not useful for a long-term happy marriage.
Suppose you contract to have a custom home built. In a couple of months the builder invites you to see their progress. You go onsite and see a beautiful, perfectly crafted, masterfully built... roof, sitting on the muddy ground. Your house needs a roof. But is it what you need right now? No.
Before you need a roof, you need a solid foundation and structure built. Most marriage advice is like the roof. You need it, but to save or rebuild a marriage, you must start with a solid marriage foundation.
In the marriage foundation is where you will find the root causes of your marriage problems.
The blog posts below cover many aspects of building a happy long-term marriage.
5 Love Needs Connect You to Your Spouse
Love languages, or love needs, are the most direct way to connect with your partner. When both you and your partner have the love needs ...
6 Human Needs and Having a Happy Marriage
There are 6 human needs. They describe your likes, dislikes, and passion. These 6 human needs describe why you do the things you do. Of ...
Affection, Sex, and the 10 Emotional Needs
Everyone has emotional needs. When these needs are fulfilled you feel a special love and connection. Emotional needs represent the middle tier of the 3 ...
The Truth About Divorce
Divorce is embedded in our legal system and culture. In this article I cover some background, the current status, after effects, and how to prevent divorce. ...
Stonewalling in a Marriage is Not Hard to Stop
Stonewalling is when one partner abruptly leaves a conversation or argument. The leaving of the conversation can be physical or forcing a change of topics. ...
Commitment is the Glue of the Marriage Foundation
Commitment is the glue of the marriage foundation. The root cause of all marriage problems is in the marriage foundation. Without commitment, one or both ...
Why the Family Dinner is the Best Time to Create a Happy Marriage
The family dinner is the best time to create a happy marriage. While most families are starved for time together, the family dinner is a ...
VIDEO: 3 Relationship Tips to Improve Any Relationship
Relationship tips are a dime a dozen. Except when they come from Brendon Burchard. Brendon has a unique way of teaching. His style, content, and ...
AUDIO – Why the Family Dinner is the Best Time to Create a Happy Marriage
Listen to the audio from the post about "Why the Family Dinner is the Best Time to Create a Happy Marriage." Or, check out the ...
Assessment – Beliefs About Conflict
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How Does One Know What Marriage Advice They Need?
My Marriage Tripod Model describes a 3-legged tripod to symbolize the process of building a happy, long-term marriage. All three legs have to be firmly on the ground for it to work.
The first leg is the most important. It is the marriage foundation which is made up of emotional intelligence and meeting our 13 Personal Needs. Without a firm foundation, all advice is like the roof sitting on the muddy ground.
The second leg represents the best practices for building a happy marriage. This is what most common marriage advice focuses on. You need it, but not until the marriage foundation is in place. At HMC, the second leg is explained in the context of having our needs met and with emotional intelligence.
The third leg is building a sustainable long term happy marriage through a commitment to constant improvement and managing conflict. With a firm foundation and daily marriage building practices, the focus is on maintaining the happy marriage for the long-term.