Why Porn Is So Difficult To Stop
Porn is a Complex Issue. There is a Reason Why Most Men Relapse.
You are not alone. Porn kills marriages everywhere. Fifty-six percent (56%) of divorces cite porn as a significant reason.
There is hope. There is a way to restore your marriage. You can do it. You start here. First, understand how porn kills marriages, and the main reason why porn is so hard to stop.
7 Ways Porn Kills Marriages
Porn Weakens Commitment
Several studies concluded that pornography weakens commitment to the partner. It replaces sexual thoughts and energies for the wife with those of porn actors. Porn is a gateway to divorce.
Porn is Like a Strong Addiction
When men watch porn, they behave similarly to men with heroin addiction. The cravings. The need-shame cycle. The lack of control. Like heroin addiction, porn puts men in an internal state of conflict.
Wives Feel Emotional Betrayal
Anger and mistrust are words often used by wives when they discover their husband watches porn. Porn emotionally wounds wives. She feels insecure, less self-esteem, and emotional & physical pain.
Wives Experience PTSD
Almost 70% of wives facing such emotional betrayal display the characteristics of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). These include obsessive thinking, fear, worry, depression, and trouble sleeping. Wives require emotional recovery.
Porn Leads to Erectile Dysfunction (ED)
Doctors find that the compulsive nature of porn leads to ED. The over-stimulation creates changes in the brain, making husbands less responsive to the physical pleasures of his wife. Porn damages men emotionally AND physically.
Men Withdraw From Intimacy
Often after using porn, husbands cannot be intimate with their wife. They may have to imagine a favorite porn actor to make love. The husband stops wanting sex, leading to a sexless marriage. Porn ruins intimacy in marriage.
Porn Leads to Aggression
Studies find that porn conditions men to act out with aggression towards women, trivialize rape, and objectify women. Men often want to act out porn scenes involving BDSM and forced sex. Porn changes men to disrespect women.
Porn Is Really THREE Problems, Not Just One
Common methods to help men stop porn in a marriage often fail. The result is that after multiple attempts to stop, there is relapse, and the marriage fails. THAT is the complexity of porn addiction. The reality is - PORN is THREE problems, not just one. Unless all 3 problems are addressed, the marriage remains in trouble.
The 3 Problems of Porn Addiction
- 1The Husband's Addiction - The husband needs treatment for his addiction. There are triggers and urges he must learn how to handle. He also needs to train his brain to develop new neural pathways that link love and intimacy to his wife. BOTH must be achieved for long-term success.
- 2The Marriage - Porn crushes the foundation of marriage. There is often little trust. There were too many secrets. The marriage needs renewal. BOTH husband and wife need to work together to rebuild the marriage on a strong foundation, and secure long-term success with the principles of loving relationships.
- 3The Wife's Emotional Wounds - Wives are emotionally injured, also. Almost 70% of wives facing a husband's porn addiction experience characteristics of PTSD. Her emotional wounds require healing. The right specialist has the tools and techniques to help the wife on her journey of healing and renewal.
The Next Step...
Why Common Methods to Stop Porn Don't Work, and What Does Work
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