Porn Can Be A Blessing in Disguise - Happy Marriage Coaching

Porn Can Be A Blessing in Disguise

Porn often leads to divorce. Fifty-six percent of contested divorce cases cite porn as a major factor. Where the average cost for divorce is $15,500, porn is a costly addiction that leads to severe emotional stress and heartbreak. But does it have to? Can a couple recover from porn? Can the marriage survive, or even thrive after porn? Can porn actually be a blessing?

The answer is an absolute YES!

One of the first lessons in my marriage coaching programs is to evaluate how you think about your marriage problems. Once porn is discovered, couples typically focus on the porn, the problem. As discovered in my previous article, most couples make two fatal mistakes. The most common advice wives tell their husbands, and the typical way couples try to fix their marriage, fail.The near 50% divorce rate and over 40% marriage unhappiness rate begs for an alternative.

  • What if the discovery of porn was a wake-up call for your marriage?
  • What if porn was a signal that your marriage was in trouble?
  • What if you approached the situation as an opportunity to re-create your marriage?
  • What if you saw this as a way to re-boot your marriage - start it over?
  • What if you saw porn as a blessing instead of a problem?

IMAGINE the POSSIBILITIES!


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The possibilities of a newly crafted marriage is what I am offering you today!

Use this wake-up call to your advantage. See this not as a horrible problem, but rather as an opportunity. Now is the time to re-boot your marriage and re-create it how you desire. 

If you could re-create your marriage, what would you want to change?

  • What boundaries would you require?
  • How would you want the finances handled?
  • How many times would you have dinner together?
  • What new rules would you create regarding communication?
  • What would you change about your sex life?
  • What other changes would you like to see?

I am not saying that porn addiction is easy to solve. It isn't. Rather than focusing on the problem, you need to look at the solution. You need to see a future that is free from porn and full of love and affection. That is what my coaching program offers.

Break Free From Porn

One can easily get a sense that breaking free from porn may be hard. While it is a difficult road to travel, many have already reached a successful end where the marriage is once again strong and resilient, free from porn. Discovering porn was a blessing - they made changes to their marriage. Your marriage can once again have intimacy and be stronger than ever.

“The major mistake many make when trying to break free from porn, is to put the entire task on the shoulders of the husband. Yes, the husband has the problem with porn. It has to stop. The marriage, however, is damaged, and must also be repaired by both husband and wife at the same time.” – Mark Jala

Breaking free from porn requires a triple-track approach.

A marriage cannot break free from porn by just focusing on the husband’s addiction. The husband's porn, core marriage issues, and the wife's damaged emotions all need repair at the same time.

Break Free From Porn

When I help couples repair their marriage from major financial issues, we have to take the same approach. The money side of the problem is pretty easy to fix. It’s just simple math. A good budget and some changes in spending and income behavior can fix most financial issues. However, money problems go deeper than just simple math. Money is used as a form of control. Because of the financial hardships, and how much fighting took place between the partners, the marriage needs repair.

The same is true with a porn addiction.

Marriage problems open the door for husbands to watch porn. His porn watching dealt a serious blow to the marriage. Conflict increases between the husband and his wife. The wife develops serious doubt in herself and her self-esteem.

With the Break Free From Porn Coaching Program, while he is recovering from his porn addiction, the marriage issues are addressed, and the wife gets help so she can heal.

If the marriage issues are not addressed, there will always be doubt, suspicions, anger, and defensiveness. The marriage will likely not last.

A Triple-Track Approach

When freeing your marriage from porn, there are some fundamental truths.

  • The husband is 100% responsible for his porn habit.
  • The husband is 100% responsible for the secrecy and lies.
  • The cause of his porn behavior is a result of weaknesses in the marriage foundation, involving BOTH partners.
  • It takes BOTH partners, husband and wife, to break the husband free from porn, AND to rebuild the marriage.
  • The husband is 100% responsible for taking control of his actions and changing his behavior. The wife cannot make him change.
  • The wife is 100% responsible for communicating, in a way the husband recognizes, acceptable and unacceptable behaviors, creating new boundaries.
  • The wife is 100% responsible for seeking help for herself to overcome negative and debilitating emotions.

My Break Free From Porn Coaching Program is a triple-track program. It is a 90-day program to help you re-create your marriage. The triple-track program achieves 3 tasks:

  1. 1
    Husbands overcome porn
  2. 2
    Marriage starts anew with new understandings and perspectives
  3. 3
    Wives overcome negative limiting emotions

Or, if you are ready to apply now:

Break Free from Porn
and Reignite the Love in Your Marriage!

The Break Free from Porn Coaching Program is by application only.

Both husband and wife need to complete the application form individually.

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Mark Jala
 

Mark Jala is a certified marriage coach, researcher, and consumer advocate. Mark bases all of his strategies and programs on verifiable research from top marriage experts. Certified in strategic interventions, Mark's holistic approach to marriage coaching gets to the root of problems, reducing the chance issues can resurface..

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