Marriage Coaching

you can have a loving marriage again - free from porn!

Introducing a NEW comprehensive and sustainable program that gets results in just 90 days!

Porn Kills Marriages

Porn is a gateway to divorce. It changes the husband, emotionally wounds the wife, and extinguishes the bonds of marriage.

Is your marriage in trouble? The research on pornography is clear.

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    Porn is like heroin addiction. When men watch porn, they behave similarly to men with heroin addiction. The cravings. The need-shame cycle. The lack of control. Like heroin, porn puts men in an internal state of conflict.
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    Porn leads to erectile dysfunction (ED). Doctors find that the compulsive nature of porn leads to erectile dysfunction (ED). The over-stimulation creates changes in the brain, making husbands less responsive to the physical pleasures
    of his wife. Porn damages men emotionally AND physically.
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    Porn weakens commitment.  Several studies concluded that pornography weakens commitment to the partner. It replaces sexual thoughts and energies for the wife with those of porn actors. Porn is a gateway to divorce.
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    Wives feel betrayed. Anger and mistrust are words often used by wives when they discover their husband watches porn. She feels insecure, less self-esteem, and emotional & physical pain. Wives are emotionally wounded.
  • 5
    Wives experience PTSD. Almost 70% of wives facing such emotional betrayal display the characteristics of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). These include nightmares, obsessive thinking, fear, worry, depression, and trouble sleeping. Wives require emotional recovery.

"I lost my husband, my kids lost the man they call dad. My family will never be the same. My marriage is over. Porn killed it. Because he chose porn. Tonight, I held my daughters as they sobbed so hard they could barely breathe. Crying out inaudible words mixed with some really raw ones. 'He promised to stop, he said we were worth fighting for, my dad is gone, he’s just gone,' they cried." - Fight the New Drug

Why Common treatments don't work

Relapse is common with porn addiction. Many men silently live with it as a secret, trying over and over again to stop. There are three conventional treatments for porn addiction..

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    The most common approach is to have the husband see a counselor. After a long time and a much money spent, the husband may be free from his addiction, but the marriage is still in turmoil, and the wife is still emotionally wounded. Relapse is common.
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    Another common approach is to use porn filters or monitoring on all digital devices, similar to Covenant Eyes. This approach is an instrumental component of an integrated solution (Mr. Jala requires Covenant Eyes in his program), but again, only address the husband's porn addiction.
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    Lastly, there is a very common advice wives give to their husbands. Just quit.  Stop cold-turkey. Unfortunately such advice does not work because of the complexity of porn addiction, and again, only addresses the porn addiction. 

Porn is 3 problems, not One

Even after the discovery and common treatment for porn, many marriages still fail. A marriage with porn fails because all the problems are not addressed. The reality is - porn is 3 problems, not 1. Unless all 3 problems are addressed, the marriage remains in trouble.

The 3 problems of Porn

  1. 1
    The Husband's Addiction - The husband needs treatment for his addiction. There are triggers and urges he must learn how to handle. His brain needs to learn new neural pathways that link love and intimacy to the wife.
  2. 2
    The Marriage - Porn crushes the foundation of marriage. There is often little trust. There were too many secrets. Your marriage needs renewal. BOTH husband and wife need to work together to see a new and brighter future together, with honesty and a vision for a happy future together.
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    The Wife's Emotional Wounds - The wife is emotionally injured. Almost 70% of wives facing a husband's porn addiction experience characteristics of PTSD. Her emotional wounds require attention.

"My husband, the sweet guy who made me weak in the knees, would come back when the porn left. But the porn kept coming back, each time things would get worse rapidly. Thousands of dollars and countless hours on therapy and support groups, and this pattern of clean for a few months followed by a relapse lasting twice as long, for years."  - Fight the New Drug

"The only successful way to treat porn in a marriage is to address all 3 problems at the same time." 
- Mark Jala

For the Wife

Anger. Pain. Betrayal. Your husband is looking at pictures or videos of other women. Emotionally, he's not 100% dedicated to you. You feel a sense of loss. You may even feel a sense of shame. Your emotions are all over the place. You go from a form of depression to rage. The smallest or most innocent things can trigger deep pain and emotional outbursts.

Happy Wife

"How can he do this to me?" "Why am I not enough?"


His porn watching has affected you physically. Maybe you're not eating regularly. You don't have the same appetite. You try to explain this to your husband, but he doesn't understand.


You may even feel physical pain at the thought of him watching porn. Have you felt a burning sensation?


These feelings and emotions are natural. It's OK to feel what you are feeling, as long as they are temporary.

You may not have thought of it this way, but porn can be a blessing in disguise. It shines a light on weaknesses in your marriage. That's OK. Now, imagine the possibilities! If you could re-do parts of your relationship, what would you change? That is the opportunity you have right now. The Reignite the Love part of this coaching program is where you and your husband start anew and rebuild your marriage from the ground up. Each of you will discover plenty of new ways to show love and affection to each other, and ways to keep the love alive for the long term.


You can do this. Empower yourself! It’s your turn to feel appreciated!


The Emotional Healing part of this coaching program is all about you. Three one-hour sessions and unlimited email for 6 months are just for you. In these 3 one-hour sessions, we will explore your current feelings, transform them into empowering emotions, and lock in protections, so you don't rehash past pain.

For the Husband

How long have you been watching porn? If you’re like many men, you have looked at or watched porn for many years. It’s not something new. You’ve kept it a secret. You may not remember when you started. Some men report looking at porn as an escape from sexual abuse as a child. For others, it was a teenage right of passage to sneak a peek at Playboy.


No matter how it started or when, you know it is not a healthy or loving activity. You’ve probably tried quitting many times. It just doesn’t seem to work. No matter what you do, you find yourself drawn back into it.

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Inside you carry a deep pain, a conflict. You love your wife. You tell yourself that. Your feelings for her haven’t changed. At least that’s what you tell yourself.


However, the reality is different.


It is a known fact that porn changes a man. It weakens your relationship with your wife. Porn trains you to treat women as objects. Porn also changes you emotionally and physically giving many men Erectile Dysfunction (ED).

You are hurting your wife more than you know. Porn is a form of emotional cheating. Your actions cause your wife great pain. Your behavior has changed, and you probably don't even realize it. Do you fully understand what you are doing to her physically? Do you understand the stress your porn watching is causing her? Your actions provide her with thoughts of betrayal, insecurity, and doubt.


Porn is a gateway to divorce. 56% of divorces cite porn as a major reason. The average contested divorce costs $15,500. Are you willing to risk it?

There is good news!


You can finally be free from porn. You can mend the relationship with your wife. You can have a marriage with respect and admiration.


It’s a matter of proper training.


A qualified coach can teach you how to resist the urges and triggers that cause you to fall back into the porn trap.

That training and qualified coach is available to you right now.


You can do this. Now is your time. Now is the time to stop having secrets and get rid of the shame you've been holding on to. It is time to BREAK FREE.

Happy Couple

How to Break Free From Porn

A new program developed by Mr. Mark Jala changes the options for porn treatment. Mr. Jala's coaching program is based on the science behind porn addiction and the failures of common treatment. The brain’s neuroplasticity depends on the “use it or lose it” dynamic. Using this dynamic to our advantage, the porn neural superhighway can be collapsed and replaced with a new superhighway based on love and intimacy with the wife.

Happy Marriage

To fully eliminate porn and renew the marriage requires a triple-track approachBreak Free from Porn, Reignite the Love, and Emotional Healing.


Break Free from Porn is a proven, research-based 6 step process that trains the husband to be aware of and resist urges and triggers. This 6-step process is the same process often used to help addicts get off of drugs, alcohol, tobacco, and other addictive substances.


Reignite the Love is an online coaching program helping couples create the marriage they desire. Through a simple 3-step process, Mr. Jala's own Passion Tripod Method, both partners experience over 60 coaching exercises providing valuable "a-ha" moments, helping to understand and value each other. 


Emotional Healing is a dedicated one-one-one program to help the wife with feelings of betrayal, inadequacy, uncertainty, and related emotional pain. 

What You Get

  • 90-Day Program – See results in your marriage quickly. In just 3 months, you can feel real love and intimacy with your husband.
  • 12 Weekly Coaching Sessions – Weekly sessions provide a goal-oriented progression to your porn free and happy marriage. You can feel and see measurable progress each week.
  • 1-Hour Coaching Sessions – One-hour sessions gives ample time to immerse yourself into the coaching experience. Each session will unveil “a-ha” moments and “sparks” to enact positive changes.
  • 6 Months of Email Coaching – Have a question in the middle of the night? No problem. Use the provided coaching email address to share a thought, ask a question, or get an answer to a challenge. Mr. Jala personally answer emails within 24 hours, 6 days a week.
  • Triple-Track Program – Break Free from Porn is a comprehensive program that addresses porn addiction, marriage issues, and emotional damage. Feel the love and intimacy you once had, with a feeling of accomplishment, knowing you and your husband solved a major divorce-causing issue by working together.
  • 6 Steps to Porn-Free – The husband is walked through a proven, research-based 6-step process to overcome the triggers and urges associated with porn. The husband can have confidence it will work, and he can once again be attracted to his wife more than ever.
  • Entire Reignite the Love Program – The marriage renews with 17 educational lessons and 60-plus coaching exercises. Feel safe and secure in your marriage when you use the best practices of happily married couples. Feel an abundance of love as you and your husband meet each other’s human and emotional needs. You’ll feel closer to your husband when you both learn how to manage conflict.
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3 Problems requires a Triple-Track approach

Mr. Jala created a new comprehensive coaching program designed to address the specific needs of porn addiction in marriage. It addresses the special needs of the husband, marriage, and wife. Here are the 3 tracks of Mr. Jala's program:

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Throughout the Break Free from Porn track, the husband will learn and practice:

  • The damage he caused his wife, and why he MUST stop viewing porn.
  • The #1 reason why porn is hard to overcome.
  • 6 proven steps to eliminating the desire to view porn.
  • Why trying to quit “cold-turkey” doesn’t work.
  • 10 urge-busters.
  • How to re-program your brain to avoid common triggers.
  • Fall in true love with your wife again – mind and body.
  • What to do when unexpected urges and triggers happen – because they will!
  • What he should NEVER do during the 90-day program.
  • Discover the real reason why he started watching porn.

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Throughout the Reignite the Love track BOTH husband and wife will discover:

  • Why the 6 human and 10 emotional needs MUST be met in order to have a happy marriage.
  • How the 80/20 principle hurt your marriage.
  • The #1 key to being happy while you work on your marriage.
  • 2 easy changes you can start making today that helps avoid conflict and arguments.
  • The 10 best practices of happily married couples.
  • If she starts to get angry, what he needs to do first!
  • How he needs to consistently show love to his wife.
  • How she needs to consistently show respect to her husband.
  • If you have a hard time forgiving, here’s the #1 thing to do.
  • When you both start practicing CANI, the marriage can weather great storms.

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Throughout the Emotional Healing track the wife will discover:

  • How to re-write the memory of discovering your husband using porn.
  • How to forgive while maintaining self-respect and dignity.
  • The single best way to rebuild your self-esteem and value.
  • How to develop a network of other woman to share and release.
  • Learn how to accept your mistakes and commit to doing better.
  • Use journaling to express your feelings without guilt or condemnation.
  • Learn how raising your standards can improve your life and your marriage.
  • How to challenge your existing belief system and adapt it to who you are today.
  • How to maintain dignity and grace even when facing challenges.

Meet Your Coach

Mark Jala

Hello, my name is Mark Jala. I’m a certified coach in Strategic Interventions. I help couples create the marriage they desire. I blend the best features of life coaching, Strategic Interventions, and the best practices of top marriage experts into a results-oriented coaching experience like no other.


I developed a new comprehensive coaching program that helps couples Break Free from Porn, Reignite the Love in their marriage, and Heal Emotional Damage


Porn addiction is usually treated by just helping the husband. It doesn't work. Porn addiction creates 3 problems and all 3 problems must be addressed at the same time. My program does that.

 

My Break Free from Porn Coaching Program, addresses porn addiction, marriage renewal, and a wife's emotional healing all within a short 90 days.

Break Free from Porn
and Reignite the Love in Your Marriage!

The Break Free from Porn Coaching Program is by application only.

Both husband and wife need to complete the application form individually.

FAQs

Does this program require both husband and wife to participate?

Do we have to do this program for 12 straight weeks?

Do you guarantee the program will work?

How does this program compare to others?

Is this a Christian or faith-based program?

Is Covenant Eyes required?

Break Free from Porn and Reignite the Love in Your Marriage!

The Break Free from Porn Coaching Program is by application only.

Both husband and wife need to complete the application form individually.

It's Time to Start Now

Mark only brings on 10 new clients each month. Since the Break Free from Porn program spans across 3 months, he is limited in how many clients he can serve. If you are ready to transform your marriage now, Mark recommends that you click on the Start Now button. Both husband and wife, individually, need to complete the application form.


Once Mark receive both forms, he reviews the applications and selects the couples he believes are most determined to succeed. Once chosen, Mark emails both partners to address any pre-coaching questions. Once the questions are addressed, Mark will send out the link to the program sign-up page.  

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What Do You Get in The Break Free From Porn Program

Eliminate porn and revitalize the intimacy in your marriage

1

Break Free From Porn

  • Six (6) 1-hour sessions
  • Just with the husband
  • Proven 6-step process

$1,500 value

2

Reignite the Love Program

  • Three (3) 1-hour sessions
  • With BOTH husband and Wife
  • All Lessons Downloadable

$1,200 value

3

Emotional Healing Program

  • Three (3) 1-hour sessions
  • Just with the Wife
  • Get rid of limiting emotions

$750 value

4

All Sessions Downloadable

  • Unlimited Replay
  • Don't Miss Any Coaching
  • Re-play the Exercises

$ Priceless

5

180 Days of Email Support

  • 90 Day Program + 90 More Days
  • Continued Support
  • Answered by Mark Jala

$90 value

NEW!

6

Lifetime Private Support Group

  • Break Free From Porn Support
  • Share with Other Couples
  • For Husbands and Wives

$ Priceless

Don't Put It Off Any Longer!
Break Free from Porn
and Reignite the Love in Your Marriage!

The Break Free from Porn Coaching Program is by application only.

Both husband and wife need to complete the application form individually.

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